Gifts for 4-Year-Old

Getting fun developmental learning gifts for a 4-year-old child that is educational is a big deal. Here at ebeanstalk we provide the largest selection of developmental, education and fun gifts for children. Find that special gift for 4-year old boys and 4-year old girls at ebeanstalk.

Gift Resource Guide

A Cheat-Sheet for a few of our favorite Gifts for 4 Year Olds & Unique Gift Ideas . Ok, so you don't feel like looking through everything for fun birthday party ideas. We understand. Keep this in mind as you are looking for gifts for 4 year olds. We love Marble Runs for creativity and open-ended play with a purpose. Balancing Boards are always fun birthday party ideas (for a little friendly competition). And a top selling gift all year long is a Drill Kit. And we put a few others below, that you should also give a quick look.

Your Road-Map for picking the right learning toys for 4 Year Olds:

  1. Target Age: When you are looking at toys, be sure to refer to the Target Age — the age when a child starts to get the most enjoyment.
  2. Developmental Milestones:
    Learn more about 4 Year Olds and the toys that make them grow & learn.
  3. Expert advice: Our child-experts matched all our toys, books and games to a child's development.
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HELP!! My child Has Tantrums…

By Gopi K. Patel, MSE.d

“My child often has tantrums 3-4 times a day—Help me—I can’t take these tantrums anymore,” is often a statement I hear from parents. Tantrums are part of growing up for every child; it is how we deal with them as parents that will determine how long they will continue.

The truth is tantrums are a LEARNED behavior. Even if it just happens once the child learns that when I cry, scream, throw myself on the floor—kicking and arms in every direction, “I WILL GET MY WAY”.

Tantrums usually occur when a child wants something and is frustrated because she can’t have it right away. When this happens parents usually give into the tantrum because they feel helpless. The problem is that as time goes by, with each episode the tantrums often get worse in their intensity, duration, and frequency.

To rid our world of tantrums, we as parents need not only learn how to deal with them once they occur, but identify a potential tantrum before it has begun.

Before the tantrum: The tell-tale signs of an on-coming tantrum are often whining, talking in a baby voice, repeating phrases over and over again, all with the intention to get his or her way. When the signs first appear say to your child (in business like voice),“use your big boy/girl voice and then I can talk to you”. If your child then asks for the same thing simply state, “you cannot have that right now. We are done talking about this now.” Repeat this as many times as necessary. Do not give in to them.

The tantrum has begun: Once a tantrum has begun walk out of the room or area you are in and ignore your child (if at home it often helps to go in a room where she cannot join you such as the bathroom/bedroom). If your child grabs on to you simply ignore them and go on with your task. If the tantrum starts getting severe in intensity where the child could hurt herself, others, or the environment— immediately remove her to a safe time out area. Then, simply state to her, “when you are quiet and ready to be with me I will come get you”. (It should be noted that a child should always know what your time out procedure is, before this is attempted).

Never give in because you feel your child has been in the time out too long. You are not a horrible parent if you let your child tantrum for a long period of time. Your child, just like you, is learning a new way of dealing with behaviors and consequences.

After the tantrum: once your child has been quiet for a couple minutes go to her and say “I am glad you are ready”/”I am glad to see you happy again”. At this point parents often get caught up in talking about the episode that triggered the tantrum, instead of dwelling on this, move on to the next activity or task. If she begins to cry and tantrum again—simply start the process all over again.

Here are some suggestions that have helped many of the families that I have worked with. It should be noted that the parents who were most successful in preventing tantrums dealt with these events in the most CONSISTENT manner. Every family is different, and unique, but every child needs LOVE, CONSISTENCY, and a POSITIVE ENVIRONMENT to grow in to his/her fullest potential.

Helpful Hints for Dealing with Tantrums:

  • Before doing a time a time out have a clear procedure for this place. Make sure it is in a safe place.
  • Parents should be in control of the situation, not their child Both parents should work together to achieve results faster. (No good cop bad cop.)
  • Do not start talking about the tantrum as soon as it has ended — talk about it at a later, if you must.
  • State things a little bit differently—rather than stating what your child should NOT be doing, state what they can be doing (a child running around—instead of: “STOP running” say: “Use your walking feet”)
  • Tell your children before the task or activity what the rules are, what you expect from him or her.
  • Be calm and in control of yourself — these situations can at times get intense.
  • The best way to eliminate tantrums before they even begin is to positively reinforce your children. Tell them as often as you can what a great job they are doing—even if the task is simple. PRAISE! PRAISE! PRAISE

How Children Grow & Learn

If you need unique gift ideas or birthday party ideas, remember this; all of the would-be gifts on ebeanstalk are matched to a child's stage of development. At four, unique gift ideas develop 'controlled freedom'(Games). Also, kids are speaking, believe it or not, about 1,500 words. And when they close in on Five Years, they are doing more gender-appropriate activities. That in a nutshell, is why we break our ages into quarterly steps, and the 4's are the last year we do this. We hope you enjoy finding unique gift ideas and birthday party ideas for this quickly evolving kid.